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<\/a><\/p>\nIn Part 1 of this two-part series I looked at some of the feelings experienced by women who struggle with infertility. (You can read it here<\/a>)\u00a0Here in Part 2, I want to take a look at infertility and creativity. Or to be more specific, how you can use your creativity to help yourself feel better despite any fertility problems you may have.<\/p>\n Here are two creative ideas you may like to try.<\/p>\n Take a slow, meandering walk around a park, garden, or beach. Look out for an object that seems to draw you in, an object that you can take home. It might be a stone, a shell, a stick, a flower, or a leaf.<\/p>\n Once you’re home, find some paper and a pencil, pen, charcoal or crayon, and start a drawing based on your chosen object. \u00a0As you draw, practice really looking hard so you notice all the qualities of your object. What particular words or associations come to mind? If any feelings come up while you are drawing, see if you can gently let them emerge, hang around for a little while, and then dissipate. Perhaps you can get a sense of the drawing in some way ‘holding’ the feelings.<\/p>\n As you draw (and afterwards), allow yourself to wonder if the object has some sort of message of wisdom for you. There may be something in the object, and\/or in your reactions to it, that has significance for you. Something might pop into your mind immediately; but it could take a long time (even days, weeks or months) before a message emerges.<\/p>\n Lula*, a woman in her 40’s who had had a hysterectomy, found herself drawn to a stone which had a \u2018scar\u2019 in it. Tears fell as she realised that this was connecting her on a deep level to her feelings about her own \u2018scarred\u2019 body. Lula felt grief — and then deep compassion — for what her body had suffered, what had been lost. The waves of sadness felt manageable to Lula as she felt them partly being transferred to her drawing. Then she felt a flood of gratitude too, for what her body still did for her.<\/p>\n Another woman, Janine, found wisdom through the process of looking for her object. She spent ages looking for a \u2018perfect\u2019 leaf, and was frustrated when she kept finding leaves with \u2018imperfections\u2019. Eventually Janine realised that this process contained her message: stop looking for perfection, and learn to love and embrace imperfection!<\/p>\n Janine even went on to make a series of deliberately imperfect drawings; then she challenged herself to see the value in them, and the unique beauty of the vulnerability of imperfection.<\/p>\n Janine also thought about herself, and her longstanding view that she somehow ought to be perfect – which in her mind involved having a child of her own. She began to let herself experiment with different ways she could be herself, without having to feel she ought to be different from how she was.<\/p>\nCreative activities to try if you've been affected by #infertility <\/a><\/span>Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n When you are concerned with fertility-related matters, your body is very much top of your awareness – perhaps coupled with a sense of anxiety, failure or despair. Using your body to make artworks can be a very important part of your healing journey. Try handling clay, wood, wool or fabric — see which material feels good in your hands. Mould it, twist it, fold it, tweak it… Experiment and find the movements your hands want to make.<\/p>\n Tracy, a woman in her thirties, was very distressed about her fertility problems, and felt increasingly stuck and frozen inside. She was aware of a deep-down sinking feeling that nothing could ever come out of her \u2018alive\u2019. Infertility and creativity felt like polar opposites to Tracy; and she was certain that she was stuck with the first, but worlds away from the second.<\/p>\n But when Tracy saw a flyer for pottery classes in a local art college, she bravely decided to give it a try. And week by week, Tracy discovered that working with her hands, squeezing and smoothing the clay, gave her a sense that on a basic, bodily level she could generate something real and meaningful. The clay pieces she produced had meaning and significance for her — she felt that finally she was able to produce something that felt really \u2018vital\u2019 and alive.<\/p>\n This was a turning point in Tracy’s healing process, and made her realize that infertility and creativity were both parts of her, parts that could be accepted and experienced instead of hidden away in shame and anxiety.<\/p>\nConnecting to your creativity can help you process and transform your feelings about infertility.<\/h2>\n
Activity 1: Drawing down Wisdom<\/h2>\n
\nTry not to judge your drawing on its artistic merit! Telling yourself you’re bad at drawing (etc) will make you feel inhibited and will stop you getting the full value from your creative activities. Just draw, and try to gently put aside any undermining thoughts you may have.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\nExample: Lula’s grief and gratitude<\/h3>\n
Example: Janine’s search for perfection<\/h3>\n
Activity 2: Use your body<\/h2>\n
Example: Tracy’s pottery<\/h3>\n